Amor y otras cosas: Signs of a Toxic Relationship

• José Luis López Velarde provides you with signs of a toxic relationship.
• Sometimes, these can be deceptive and confusing to detect.
• Happiness is something you are entitled to, so do not hesitate to leave when you are constantly hurt.

If you find yourself in a relationship where you feel that you cannot go out with your friends, visit your family, your cell phone is controlled, you are accused of cheating, or you are constantly criticized, it is time to pay attention to the signs of a toxic relationship.

Today, we will explore how to identify these signs and make conscious decisions in your love life. Conflict is a natural part of any romantic relationship, and overcoming it can strengthen the bond.

However, it is important to know when it is necessary to consider whether it is worth continuing in a relationship. Do not make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.

Often, emotions cloud our judgment, and it is essential to learn to postpone important decisions when we are emotionally affected.

Measures of a Non-Toxic Relationship

To assess if a relationship is toxic, you can use a simple but effective technique. Get a calendar, and each night before going to sleep, draw a happy, angry, sad, or neutral face to represent how you feel about your relationship that day.

After a month or more, see if most days fall into the negative category (focused on 30-60%). This will help you have an objective view of your relationship.

There are four key signs to look out for when assessing your relationship: Ridicule: If your partner constantly mocks you, criticizes your choices, interests, or goals in a derogatory way, it’s a sign of toxicity.

If your partner never takes the blame in arguments and always makes you feel responsible for the problems, it can be a sign of manipulation.

Signs of a Harmful Relationship

If your relationship is characterized by a pattern of hurting and then trying to repair through gestures of love, this indicates a negative cycle in the relationship.

If your social circle has drastically reduced or changed because of your relationship, it’s a sign that it could be negatively affecting your social life. When you find yourself in a toxic relationship and consider ending it, seek appropriate support.

Talking to friends and family can be helpful to emotionally vent, but keep in mind that their advice will be influenced by their personal experiences and emotional filter.

If you decide to end the relationship, make sure to consult with an experienced therapist, as they can help you make informed decisions and manage the emotional consequences.

You are worth it

Conclusion: No one should live in a toxic relationship. It’s important to recognize the signs and make decisions that are better for your emotional and physical well-being.

The final decision is yours and that, with the right support, you can find the strength to take steps towards a healthier and happier life.

Do not hesitate to seek help if you need it! At the end of the day, relationships are for us to feel joyous, not to be angry or worried all the time we are in one.

José Luis bids you farewell and hopes you now have more tools to deal with toxic relationships. Until next time!