Amor y otras cosas: Why do we fall in love?

• José Luis López Velarde tells us why we fall in love.
• In reality, it’s a biological and emotional process.
• This means that not everyone is attracted to the same thing.

Do you get a stomachache when you’re by their side? Don’t you want time to pass? You’re in love and want to know why. Love will always have a touch of mystery, and in this episode, we explore the reasons behind why we fall in love.

Today on «Love and Other Things,» psychologist and sexologist specializing in couples’ issues, José Luis López Velarde, guides us through the complex reasons behind our infatuation.

Why are we attracted to certain people and not others? What biological, anthropological, and emotional factors influence the process of falling in love?

Join us as we explore these layers of love’s mystery.

Infatuation for Anthropological Need

José Luis starts by breaking down the first layer of infatuation: the anthropological. Here, he refers to everything that makes us human, our culture, social contact, and the history of our species.

Although we would all like to believe that we are unique in our romantic choices, there are universal indicators that affect most of us. For example, the attraction to people who demonstrate skills in caring for and educating children.

This behavior, such as playing and setting boundaries with children, is interpreted as a sign of the ability to protect and provide a safe environment for the offspring’s growth.

Youth and joviality are also attractive, as they indicate the ability to procreate and a life full of laughter.

Who Does This Remind Me Of?

The second layer of infatuation is personal life history. From conception to the present, all significant emotional experiences can influence whom we feel attracted to.

José Luis mentions that we often look for characteristics in potential partners that remind us of significant figures in our childhood, like mom or dad.

These early experiences of love and attachment can leave deep marks on our subconscious, influencing our future romantic choices.

Identifying these influences can be key to understanding why we are attracted to certain people.

Emotional Responsibility

Finally, José Luis introduces us to the third layer of infatuation: conscious programming. This stage is only accessible after deep personal growth and self-awareness work.

Here, we can reprogram our beliefs and emotions to consciously choose people who bring us healthy and reciprocal love.

This involves identifying our emotional needs and looking for partners who can meet them in a balanced way.

José Luis emphasizes the importance of making a list of our emotional states and the actions we expect from a partner in each of them.

Falling in Love

By identifying these emotional needs, we can work on building healthier and more satisfying relationships.

So, today, on «Love and Other Things,» José Luis López Velarde has guided us through the three layers of infatuation: the anthropological, life history, and conscious programming.

By understanding these layers, we can make more conscious decisions in our relationships and seek partners who provide us with healthy and reciprocal love.

See you next week to explore more topics related to love, sex, and couple relationships. Until then, we wish you love and happiness in your life!