Amor y otras cosas: When Your Partner Asks for Time

• Jorge Luis López Velarde offers a brief analysis of what to do when your partner asks for time.
• Relationships are a particular world, meaning, not a single one is the same.
• It is important to pay attention to your partner and yourself to know how to handle this situation.

Relationships go through good and bad times. Sometimes couples are in a peaceful place, but other times, they face challenges for different reasons.

Without a doubt, these moments test many parts of the relationship. But, your partner might ask you for something that confuses you… time.

When your partner asks for time, it’s really important to notice early signs that something isn’t going well in the relationship.

These signs might be things like talking less, not being there emotionally, or slowly pulling away.

Stay Calm When Time is Requested

Identifying these signs allows you to address issues before they worsen and lead to a request for space from your partner.

Instead of getting caught up in complaining or asking for more when you see that your special person is pulling away, it’s really important to avoid asking for more focus on you.

Acting this way often makes stress in the relationship and might make your partner ask for even more space.

Remember, sometimes it’s not about us, but about the other person. They might just need some time to sort out their own thoughts.

When Your Partner Asks for Time

When your partner needs that space, be understanding and patient instead of pushing or forcing. Respecting your loved one’s need to work through their feelings and issues is key to keeping the relationship steady.

When they ask for time, don’t be afraid to ask how much time they need. This not only gives you a rough idea of the time frame but also shows that you’re willing to respect their needs and wants.

Making clear boundaries is really important in this process. You have to decide how long you’re willing to wait before reaching out again.

Talking about these boundaries is vital to avoid waiting forever and to keep some control over the situation.

Work on Yourself

During the waiting period, work on staying calm and controlling the anxiety and anguish that may arise. Look for productive ways to occupy your time and focus on self-discovery and personal growth.

This time apart is also an opportunity to reflect on the relationship as a whole.

Identify areas where the relationship may have failed or where both can improve, such as communication, emotional intimacy, or understanding love languages.

Instead of assuming the worst, maintain an open and positive attitude towards future conversation with your partner. Consider that this time apart may be an opportunity for both of you to work on the relationship and strengthen it.

An Opportunity to Grow

Once the agreed time has passed, approach your partner again and ask if they are ready to talk.

Set a date or time for a conversation and prepare to discuss the state of the relationship and how both of you can move forward together.

Stay calm, as if you get upset, things might not go entirely well. Try not to make assumptions in your head before talking.

Undoubtedly, it is a topic that is somewhat difficult to understand for the person who has to wait, but it does not always mean something bad. Do not rush. Things might improve after this stage. Jorge Luis says goodbye to you. See you next time!